Dear Taiwo,Whenever there was a break, she would travel out of the country with my mother. Nike became a big girl in no time, I really did not mind because I wanted the best for her and I loved her so much.When I returned to the country and took over the family business because of my father's challenging health problems, we had to move into our own apartment, but Mayomikun our son stayed back with my parents. Nike's mother became a regular guest in our home, I did not mind because she was like a mother to me. But at a point, I discovered that whenever she came it was one quarrel after the other between her and her daughter.I didn't like this development and I had to ask Nike why she always quarreled with her mother. Nike told me that she always came to demand for money stating unnecessary expenses. I was surprised that Nike complained about giving her mother money, she had no cause to because she had enough and I see no reason why she cannot help her mother.It became so bad that I had to seat her down and discuss this issue with her. Nike explained to me that she had at several times tried to settle her mother and get her something doing. She had given her money at different times to trade, but unfortunately, she would squander the money and come asking for more. She said she was of the opinion that she did this on purpose because they always disagreed on her choice of business.Her mother favoured the selling of paraga and those other hard stuffs, but she didn't want it. She, however, was of the opinion that Nike wanted to force things on her because she had money. As if I knew this would aggravate issues, I advised that Nike should give her the money she wanted and leave her to her choice of business, but she wouldn't listen.I walked in to meet both of them arguing few days after Nike and I discussed her issue. I didn't hear much of what had been said or what she said later, but I heard her told her daughter that she made her and she would unmake her. She went as far as saying that if she wasn't careful, she would go the way of her father.I was afraid when I heard this, because I understood perfectly well what she meant by this. I told my mother and she called and spoke with Nike and gave her some money to give to her mother, but I guess it was a little late by then as the deed had been done.I don't know if I should call it coincidence, because I am not a student of that school of thought. After the last quarrel, Nike began to misbehave. For no just cause, she became troublesome and unruly and our peaceful home became a trouble spot.To crown it up, I began to hear of her escapades with other men. When it was time for her youth service, she refused to seek redeployment. As a married woman, she was not supposed to have been posted out of town at all, but she did not see to this, in fact, I later learnt that she asked to be deployed to Abuja. She refused to budge irrespective of my persuasion.My parents asked me to leave her, because probably she needed a change; you wouldn't believe that she did not come home after her youth service. I later learnt that she travelled to the UK with the man her mother wanted her to marry.Monica, I was heartbroken, her action not only affected me but the whole of my family. My parents loved her like their own child. I also loved her. It took me time to get over her betrayal. As if that was not enough, three months after she left, my father died while mum followed five months after.I was left with my son and sibling. I had to force myself to move on, because I had so many responsibilities; the family business, sibling and son, I was lonely and heartbroken. Because of what Nike did, I found it hard to speak with another lady. As a result of this, two years after my wife left me, my mother's best friend introduced Funbi to me. She also had a failed relationship. She was married for only seven months when her husband left for another woman.I thought Funbi was genuine, but few months into our relationship, she started misbehaving. Funbi's trouble was too much for me. I couldn't cope with her and most importantly, she doesn't seem to care about my son. Mayomikun, is my life and I cannot stand and watch any woman maltreat him so I had to end my relationship with her.You would think ending the relationship would bring peace, but for her it was more trouble. I had to travel out of town for some months for the heat to cool off. I practically ran away from her and her trouble. It was later I learnt that her former husband left her because of her troubles.It took me another four years to get involved with another woman, Clara, from Akwa Ibom. She was in Lagos for her youth service. We met at a friend's party. She was pretty and very innocent looking. There is some- thing about her that you will want to protect.We started a relationship and I almost married her. In fact we had the traditional ceremony before I learnt she was pregnant for another man. It was good enough that she had the conscience to tell me and not saddle me with another man's child. It would have been a disaster.I quit trying after her, I have had series of relationship and I am yet to find fulfillment. Sometimes, I feel I am the one with the problem. I really need to be happy and have a family of my own. I want a wife, but I have been beaten several times. Is it possible for me to find happiness in the opposite gender' Please, help and advise meAdeyemi
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