Success isn't about copying other people's habits, or following one prescriptive path. The surest way to find success is to avoid being unsuccessful.Unsuccessful people aren't able to focus on the present, instead constantly distracted by what's to come or what's already happened.They only listen to themselves, and don't take the opportunity to learn or try new things.Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories.Do you really think you'll be successful if you simply copy other people's habits' If that was the case, success would be easy.I never met a successful person until I was 24. I grew up in a working-class familyI was more around people who were the opposite.The first successful person I met was an entrepreneur in his 40s. When I started my first real business, he was one of my first clients. When I met him, he was slightly overweight, had more money than he could count, and was merry all the time.But he also lost his wife, the love of his life, a half decade before. We became friends. He told me that he never got over it. Even though he experienced tragedy, he still had a positive outlook on life and did good things.He truly cared about others. I have to be honest, my first business wasn't great, but he still gave me a chance to do business with him. He always said: "I just try to avoid being unsuccessful." That's the number one thing I learned from him. He said that you should study what makes you unsuccessful, unhappy, broke, fat, stupid. Then, eliminate those things out of your life.To this day, I still live by that advice. I like his concept of tryingnotto beunsuccessful. Because what is success' The second best definition that I've found comes from Bob Dylan, my favorite musician of all time."A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do."You've probably read articles that discuss the habits of successful people. The problem with those type of articles is that they give you conditional promises."Eat three eggs with bacon, wash your hair with soybeans, do 10 push-ups, and do your daily affirmations, AT THE SAME TIME."We have to let go of the "if I do x, I'll be successful or happy" way of thinking. It does exactly the opposite: You do what other people do. Live the way other people live. I might not know a lot about success, but I'm sure as hellthat'snot success.What follows is a list of things that we shouldn't do. If you have one of these bad habits, don't worry; no one's perfect. If you have two bad habits, you should worry. Do you have three or more' You might want to changebecause one thing is sure: No one wants to be unsuccessful.SEE ALSO:Women reach peak career confidence around age 40, research shows1. They're always distractedEssentialism, by Greg McKeown, is one of my favorite books. McKeown shares the story of when he met his former classmate, years after graduating.He told McKeown that he was in between jobs and asked if McKeown could help him. Twenty seconds into the conversation the guy got a text and started looking down to his phone and started responding.McKeown says: "Ten seconds went by. Then twenty. I simply stood there as he continued to text away furiously." After two minutes he gave up and walked away from the obsessive texter.Don't live your life in the future or past, lost in thoughts and worry. If that guy from the example was present, he might have got an awesome job recommendation from Greg McKeown.2. They only talk the talkYou know what's better than talking about something' Doing it.In 2010, Derek Sivers gave a TED talk called "Keep your goals to yourself," where he presented scientific evidence that talking about your goals is counterproductive.We see it all the time in real life and on social media: "I'm training for a marathon." "I'm starting a business."The crazy thing is how people react. They applaud you for announcing something. Let's pause for a second: Sayingyou want to run a marathon andactually runninga marathon are two different things, right'In your brain, those things are actually not that far apart. Derek Sivers says:"When you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it's called a 'social reality.' The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done. And then because you've felt that satisfaction, you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary."Be someone that does things, not someone who talks about things.3. They spend time with losersSpend enough time with losers, and you'll become one. Apply this analogy to any type of person.Do you want to get fit' Hang out with fit people. People feed off each other's energy.What's better, your friend asking when you're going to the gym, or your friend asking to go out for the third time that week'4. They hate everythingThey especially hate people that are doing well. Why can't you be happy for other people' Don't worry, you won't be aPollyanna. You can still be cool and be positive.Give people some love, it won't kill you. Unsuccessful people even hate things that just "are.""Ugh, it rained this morning, and my hair got all messed up. I hate rain." Common, really'Having a bad day is okayeveryone gets irritable once in a while. But if you always hate everything, you'll have a bad life.5. They procrastinateWhat's the benefit of putting things off' I once asked my college professor to extend a deadline for an essay.He said: "I'm perfectly happy to extend your deadline by a week. The only thing I'm asking you is will your essay be better if you hand it in a week from now'"My answer was "no," so I worked my ass off to finish it on time. Only delay things when you'll do a better job later.What's the point of delaying something if you get the same outcome' Do it now, or do itbetterlater.6. They don't listen to othersUnsuccessful people love themselves. To be honest, we all love ourselves, but if you're unsuccessful, you ONLY love yourself.We listen to others because we care about them. Howelsecan you show you care' Everyone can give a hug, but not everybody calls you just to ask "How are you'" Ask, listen, care, repeat.7. They're lazyNever feel like doing anything' We've all been there: Not feeling like going to dinner with your partner, or not feeling like buying an awesome present for your mother's birthday. Let's face it, it's all because you're lazy.Be a sport and get off your couchparticipate with your family, friends, partner. The beauty of life lies in new and novel experiences.When you're lazy, you don't even give yourself a chance to experience new things. It's also not fair to the people in your life.8. They don't learnLearning is one of the most difficult things in the world. It's not a surprise many people neverread a book, never finish school, or never learn from their mistakes. Learning is a struggle.But think about it: We live in the most exciting time in history for learners. The access to information has never been this easy. In the past, if your dad was a farmer, you became a farmer. Things were like that.Now, you can be anything you wishyou just need to learn how to do it.9. They are not niceSomehow, people think it's cool to be a jerk. Honestly, it's way cooler to be nice. You don't have to be a Buddhist Monk or anything, just be a nice person.Try it some time, you might make a few new friends. And if you have difficulty defining what a "nice person" is, you're likely a jerk.10. They are quittersI saved the worst for last. If there's one thing you take away from this article, I hope it's this:"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." '' Thomas A. EdisonThere's nothing I can add to that. Actually, there is: never give up. Click here to read full news..