<p><img src="https://static2.businessinsider.com/image/5e667b224e15a707024c98f7-2200/natalie%20taylor%20-%20headshot%202019.jpg" border="0" alt="Natalie Taylor Headshot 2019" data-mce-source="Courtesy Natalie Taylor"></p><p></p><bi-shortcode id="summary-shortcode" data-type="summary-shortcode" class="mceNonEditable" contenteditable="false">Summary List Placement</bi-shortcode><ul class="summary-list"><li>When I started out as a financial planner at 23, I talked too muchI was too eager to prove I knew my stuff.</li><li>After 16 years in the business, I now know what makes a great planner.</li><li>A great planner talks about their clients on their website, talks just 25% of the time in meetings, and is someone you can trust.</li><li><a href="https://www.gofinancialadvice.com/r/77705f1c6e8bb5db4c834616a1bd20c6" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener sponsored">Set up a no-obligation virtual consultation with a fiduciary Financial Advisor to see how you can grow your portfolio </a></li></ul><p>When I was a brand new financial planner 16 years ago (at 23, looking about 14), I really wanted to prove to clients that I knew my stuff, so I talked waaaaaay too much. (Apologies, early clients.) I took the responsibility of being a financial planner really seriously, and I was desperate to learn so that I could give good advice. But I was also insecure about my age and my life stage. I was renting an apartment with roommates from college, driving a Honda Civic with a side mirror glued on with epoxy, struggling to <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-invest-in-roth-ira" target="_blank" rel="noopener">fund a Roth IRA</a>, and serving clients twice my age with kids and mortgages and million-dollar portfolios.</p><p>The distance between us felt so big, so I tried hard to be a Doogie Howser type and prayed I wouldn't run into clients on the weekends in my sweats eating at the local Mexican chain with my boyfriend. My awareness of the distance between where I was and where my clients were prevented me from being truly, fully present because I was always trying to prove myselfmy knowledge, my maturity, and my self-worth.</p><h2>My evolution as a financial planner</h2><p>After I got a few years under my belt and became a <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/what-is-a-cfp-certified-financial-planner" target="_blank" rel="noopener">certified financial planner</a>, my knowledge and confidence grew, but I still misunderstood my role as a financial planner. I thought my role was to lead clients down the path that I<em> knew </em>was best for themto solve their puzzle my waybased on all the things I'd learned, all the research I'd done, and all the clients I'd served. I talked less, but I still didn't listen as well as I could have. I was too focused on explaining why my advice was the right way to go. My intentions were good, and my advice was sound, but I was still mistaken about what my role truly was.</p><p>Over the last several years, I've come to see things differently. I now understand that my role isn't to tell clients what to do. It's to be a thought partner for clients, helping them discover what they want to accomplish, putting their goals in context so they can prioritize what's important to them, and providing a few optimized paths to get where they want to go. It's their path, not mineI'm there to help them make wise decisions, optimize progress, avoid pitfalls along the way, and see their path more clearly, not tell them what to do.</p><p>Now that I deeply understand my role, my advice looks different for every client because their lives and goals and priorities are different. So if you're <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-choose-a-financial-planner-guide" target="_blank" rel="noopener">looking for a financial planner</a> who's more of a thought partner than someone who just tells you what to do, here's what I recommend.</p><div><style> #div-gpt-ad-1579713650634-4 > div > iframe { width: 100% !important; min-width: 300px; max-width: 595px; } </style><script async src="https://securepubads.g.doubleclick.net/tag/js/gpt.js"></script><script> window.googletag = window.googletag || { cmd: [] }; googletag.cmd.push(function () { googletag.defineSlot('/1035677/Business_Insider_', [[1, 1], [300, 139], [595, 139], [300, 250], [595, 250], [300, 360], [595, 360], [300, 475], [595, 475]], 'div-gpt-ad-1579713650634-4') .addService(googletag.pubads()); googletag.pubads().enableSingleRequest(); googletag.pubads().setTargeting('category', ["Financial Planning"]).setTargeting('subcat', []).setTargeting('post_id', []) .setTargeting('post_url', []) .setTargeting('keyword', []) .setTargeting('company-product', []) .setTargeting('post_title', []); googletag.enableServices(); }); </script><!-- /1035677/Business_Insider_ --><div id="div-gpt-ad-1579713650634-4"> <script> googletag.cmd.push(function () { googletag.display('div-gpt-ad-1579713650634-4'); }); </script></div></div><h2>How to find the best financial planner for you</h2><h3>1. Read their website</h3><p>First, check out their website. Are they going on and on about themselves and their process, or are they focused on your experience as a client and the benefits of their services for you' Are they thinking and communicating from their perspective or yours'</p><h3>2. Pay attention to how much they talk</h3><p>Next, when you're interviewing advisors, pay attention to how much they talk versus how much they listen in your initial meeting. A good advisor will talk 25% or less of the time and be focused on understanding your situation, your goals, your challenges, and your questions. Pay attention to the questions they're askingare they focused on account balances and how much you make, or what's important to you and what you're concerned about'</p><h3>3. Trust yourself</h3><p>Finally, trust your gut. The right financial planner should feel like an expert, but should also feel like someone you can talk tosomeone you <em>want</em> to talk to. Clients share everything from miscarriages to marital tension to day-to-day parenting struggles with me. Your financial planner doesn't need to be your best friend, but it is important to find someone you truly connect with.</p><p>And if you happen to be a young financial planner, I hope you can take my experience and learn this lesson much more quickly than I did! Talk less, listen more. Focus on what's <em>actually </em>important to your client rather than what you think <em>should</em> be important to them. Don't worry so much about how smart you sound. Spend your time focused on understanding what your clients want to accomplish and helping them get there. Because it's not about you, it's about them.</p><bi-shortcode id="related-content-module" class="mceNonEditable" data-type="more-financial-planner-coverage" data-sheetname="More Financial Planner Coverage">Related Content Module: More Financial Planner Coverage</bi-shortcode><p><a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/personal-finance/clear-signs-found-great-financial-planner-2021-1#comments">Join the conversation about this story »</a></p>
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