New Job And Relocation - Mature Advise Needed

<b>LONG STORY ALERT!!!</b><br><br><br>Good afternoon Nairaland.<br><br>God has been so good to my family this year and a particular blessing has been giving us sleepless night.<br><br>I work with a big organisation here in Lagos and currently earn about N600k. I used to work in the branch since my entry level days 6 years ago until I was able to runz the head office movement. <br><br>Ever since I join the HQ two years, my life has been at ease. No weekend duties, no sickening pressures from customers. I have been able to develop my self, complete the professional courses I abandoned and can rest well on weekends/public holidays.<br><br>The worklife balance now isn't only the advantage of working at the HQ. The career progression and rapid promotion crowns it all.<br><br>My spouse earns a little above N400k and we manage ourselves well. Our combined income isn't that much but we've been able to achieve a lot due to our mutual cooperation. She commits her resources 100% into our home. Some people see me as a &quot;big man&quot; outside, no knowing I am actually enjoying the reward of marrying a good wife.<br><br>My wife recently got a job very lucrative job. Salary is about N1.5M monthly. She was on the process for close to a year. You can imagine our joy when she was eventually given an offer. This job is a huge one for us as a family and will make life more sweet.<br><br>My pain now is the job is based at Abuja and that means she has to relocate there with our kids. Abuja is not where I can drive to considering the security situation of Nigeria. Also, it won't be wise to fly down every week (I also have hidden phobia for heights <img src="https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif" alt="cry" border="0" class="faces">) because of costs and other attendant risks.<br><br>I actually want us to live together as a family most especially because of our kids. Some Kids tend to be spoilt when raised almost alone their mothers. As a father, I want to jointly raise them with their mother and also instill discipline <img src="https://www.nairaland.com/faces/lipsrsealed.png" alt="lipsrsealed" border="0" class="faces"> in them appropriately.<br><br>The only solution on sight is to ask my company for redeployment to a branch at Abuja. This I fear might return me back to &quot;Egypt&quot;. I.e days of stunted growth, no promotions. In summary, I am scared of <b>killing my career</b> by myself.<br><br>My wife is okay with us visiting each other every month but I am vehemently against it. <br><br>Someone please help <img src="https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif" alt="cry" border="0" class="faces"> <img src="https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif" alt="cry" border="0" class="faces">
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