I will advise that you meet the man who fathered your children. Play your part for God's sake. Make sure your children meet with him too. I had a similar experience from my father too. 080026289190.Do not allow him come close to your children because he was the one who turned them down when they needed his help. He is a pretender. 'Obe to jina owa fe je nibe, ko se se, eewo. Now, Morenike, supposing you also abandoned these children and married another man, what would have become of them'My prayer for you is that you will live long to eat the fruit of your labour. Put yourself together, be of good courage, and tell him to face the children from the other woman. Nana, 07083125372.I will advise you see him and convince your children to do same. There is no harm in hearing him out.Try and find out what he wants. Establish his purpose first, and then let us know through this medium; Heartcopy, then one would know what advice to give you. A.B. Ibadan, 08091847028 You should forgive him if he is truly repentant. You should also prevail on your children to meet with their father.It is not as if he is asking you and the children to come and start living with him; you should be thankful because God has helped you with your children. As a result of this, you should forgive him. 07057395677.I sympathise with you. I also salute your courage over your children, who God saw through all and today they have become successful.My prayer for you is that you will eat the fruit of your labour.As for their father, please, plead with your children to forgive him since he cannot be replaced. Forget his family, sometimes all problems which emanate in homes start from the extended family. You can forgive him, but do not attempt to marry him again since he has a wife. All will be well with you. Babatunde Ogunwusi, 08050986345.You should listen to those who asked you to meet your husband in the company of your children.The Bible says we should forgive ourselves, so, please, speak with your children and try to reconcile them with their father. Kemi, 080176376889.You should try and appeal to your children to forgive their father. They should realise that whatever they are today is by the grace of God.They should not allow their success stall their reconciliation with their father. 08091825108.I will advise that you keep away from this man completely. Directly or indirectly, this man is a polygamist; the woman at home is your rival. Her children are step sisters and brothers to your children.He has made his choice. Coming back now is a beginning of problems. Because the wife at home will not take your reunion lightly, she may not be the Godly type who will seat and fold her hands.I will advise you not to put your children in danger and unnecessary rivalry.` Free your mind and forgive.08057235515. I appreciate and salute your courage. You have done well with your children. You nurtured them to an enviable state.Let them take their decision, when they needed their father he was not there for them at least they are not babies, they are grownups. Lola Samuel 07043851223.This is not a decision she can take alone. You need to invite the relevant parties to be involved in the meeting. You should also establish caution while trying to go about this issue. Jide Obokun, 08081620399.You should allow your children to see their father. He is their biological father and even socially they need his attention.He could have acted under the influence of charms then. It is obvious now that his conscience is troubling him.If you can critically observe that he is sincere in his desire to see his children and not an agent of destruction and destabilisation, please, forgive him. Yomi, Oshogbo 07037871502.I feel sorry for you after reading your story, but your husband's sudden desire to see your children is a little suspicious coupled with the fact that he now has four other children.Please, pray before you take any decision. If possible, insist on knowing why he wants to see the children. You should also pray very well before taking any step or action. May God shed more light on this situation for you. Olumide, 08166622779.You shouldn't pity this man, please, forget about him. Imagine your last child was only four years old when he left all of you and he is now a 300 level student in the university.He simply wants to reap from where he did not sow. Rtd W.O. Omisigho Sylvester. I will advise that you should agree to a meeting with your husband. Plead with his children to see him, but please, do not force them. Muhammed, Zamfara 08053604403. I sympathise with you. But please, remember what the Bible says; we should forgive ourselves. It is very painful to bear, but take heart. Forgive him and advise your kids to do same. They cannot have two fathers. No matter what he might have told them when they went looking for him. They should have a forgiving spirit. If they forgive him, honestly, their ways will open.You and your children will also end up well. Deacon James Adeyi, Mangn, Plateau State.You need to think deeply about this issue. Do not rush into it or allow anyone to stampede you into it. Please, follow your heart.Ask God to show you what to do before you attend the meeting if you decide to. Emmanuel, 08164227932. You mentioned in your story that he is telling everyone that you deprived him of seeing your children after he shamelessly abandoned them when they went to him for their legal right. It is not advisable you meet with him because he has not regretted his action, since he only wants to meet the children.Do not interfere, let your children decide for themselves, if they want to meet him or not. They are adults.Children of separated/divorced couples usually have this emotional conflict on whether to meet the absent parent or not. The decision comes automatically according to situations and destiny. I am speaking from experience. Amuda, 08060929459.
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