10 things emotionally intelligent people refuse to think

Pay attention to what comes out of your mouth.The language you use affects how you experience your world, and how others experience you. Inevitably, things get "lost in translation."If you're familiar with cognitive distortion or cognitive bias, these psychology terms teach us that there are subtle ways that our mind can convince us of something that isn't really true.These inaccurate thoughts are usually used to reinforce negative thinking or emotions, thus holding us back.We all do this, both consciously and unconsciously, and how we do it provides pointers to our underlying beliefs about ourselves, our peers, partners and colleagues, and the immediate world around us.This could spell trouble. Which of these do you do' Check the areas below and be courageous enough to ask a trusted peer for perspective. Is it a problem'SEE ALSO:A Harvard psychologist says too many people think about happiness all wrongDON'T MISS:7 signs you're a leader people want to followTop 10 Cognitive Distortions1. All or nothing thinkingSeeing things as black-or-white, right-or-wrong, with nothing in between. Essentially, "if I'm not perfect then I'm a failure." Examples:"I didn't finish writing that proposal so it was a complete waste of time.""There's no point in playing in that golf tournament to raise money if I'm not 100 percent in shape.""The vendor didn't show, they're completely unreliable!"2. Over-generalizationUsing words like "always" or "never" in relation to a single event or experience."I'll never get that promotion.""She always does that...."3. Minimizing or magnifying (also, catastrophizing)Seeing things as dramatically more or less important than they actually arewhich can often create a "catastrophe" that follows. Examples of such inner dialogue:"Because my boss publicly thanked her, she'll get that promotion, not me (even though I had a great performance review and just won a company award).""I forgot that email! That means my boss won't trust me again, I won't get that raise, and my wife will hate me."See the rest of the story at Business Insider
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