A matchmaker says there's a simple but overlooked way to boost your chances of finding a relationship

If you're looking for a relationship, tell your friends and ask them to set you up.That's advice from Miami-based matchmaker Claudia Duran.Research suggests most people still met through friends as of 2010, and our friends can sometimes know us better than we know ourselves.Last year, I asked career expert Toni Thompson about the best ways to get ahead at work. Her response was simple: "Talk about what you want with your boss."If you're gunning for a promotion, a raise, or simply more opportunity, let your manager know. Once you do, they'll be able to advocate for you in conversations with their manager.Dating, it turns out, may not be so different. If you're looking for a relationship, or at least someone who has relationship potential, let your friends know. Once you do, they'll start looking at their network with an eye toward who'd be compatible with you.That's according to Claudia Duran, a Miami-based matchmaker with dating service Elite Connections.Duran told me it's all about "being a little more communicative and vulnerable." In other words, telling your friends, "Hey. I'm really looking to meet someone special. Do you know somebody you could introduce me to'"As Duran put it, "Ask and you shall receive."Duran is onto something. Research from 2012published in the American Sociological Review suggests that, as of 2010, meeting through friends was still the most popular way for relationships to startthough it's gradually becoming less common as online dating becomes more widespread.In fact, a 2011 paper published in Current Directions in Psychological Science suggests that other people can sometimes know us even better than we know ourselves. That's especially true when it comes to behaviors like talking a lot, or traits we may not recognize in ourselves, like intelligence.To be sure, app-makers have already capitalized on this: Wingman lets you set up your friends with potential partners, which could be a relief or a recipe for disaster, depending on your perspective. And Hinge matches you with friends of Facebook friends.If you're not up to asking your friends outright to set you up, Duran had a few similar suggestions. Hang out at clubs, sports games, charity events, and the likethe point is to find someone who shares your interests. "Really," Duran said. "Don't be shy."SEE ALSO:A matchmaker says one of the best things you can do for a relationship takes almost no time ' but a lot of courageJoin the conversation about this storyNOW WATCH: 8 definitive rules for texting someone you want to date
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